- Statement: I found my husband when I was finally content with being alone. What it sounds like they're saying: You're being punished for not being content in all circumstances and you need to be more like me.
- Statement: Your standards are too high. What it sounds like they're saying: Settle, you should snatch the first guy who asks you out and thank your lucky stars that he did.
- Statement: Nothing sanctifies you like marriage. What it sounds like they're saying: You're not getting the special brand of sanctification I'm getting and if you never get married you never will.
These sorts of comments sometimes bug me, but lately they've just been making me laugh...specifically at myself. Most likely, the married person making the above statements is well intentioned and really just wants to help. The problem isn't so much the pride I imagine them saying these things with but rather Who I am trusting to provide for me; whether it be a marriage or sanctification. God has the best plan for each of His children (Romans 8:28) and that is the lens through which all of us need to look.
Still, the next time you consider one of the above statements in regards to a single friend, think about how they might hear it and consider another alternative.